If you ever thought about what peer pressure is all about and how is it going to affect you both spiritually and morally, this inspirational piece of writing by Sarthak Dhamija will walk you through.
So the college has begun, for most of you it would be the new phase of life, for some it is a new year/semester in college. Yet again the same schedule. All of us are bunking today’s Mathematics lecture. Who wants to attend that boring lecture? Let’s go and have fun in café, says one your friends. Do you do what you know is right and attend the math’s lecture? Or do you give in and go with your friends?
If you go with the latter, then my friend you have just experienced what is commonly referred to as peer pressure. It is probably more accurate to refer it as peer influence rather than peer pressure or we may also call it as social influence to adopt a particular type of behavior or attitude in order to be accepted as a part of a group of your “PEERS”.
As you grow older, you’ll be facing some challenging decisions. Decisions involving serious moral questions, like whether to bunk class, try cigarettes, consume alcohol or lie to your parents. Making decisions is hard, but when other people get involved and try to pressurize you one way or another it can be even harder. People who are your age, like your classmates, when they try to influence the way you intend to act, to get you to do something, it’s called peer pressure. It’s something everyone has to deal with. While it can be hard for teens to resist peer influence sometimes, especially in the heat of the moment, it can also have a positive effect. Just as people can influence others to make negative choices, they can also influence them to make positive ones. Positive peer pressure helps you to reflect on your actions and amend your ways to become a better individual. Observing others working hard to achieve their goals will definitely encourage you to step up your game and strive towards something positive.
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough”- Josh Billings
Negative peer pressure causes many problems with people which is a bad thing, because once it causes problems it is hard to get out of them or deal with them, depending on what happened. Having negative peer-pressure can cause people’s self- esteem to change, and it may not always be in a good way. The person may start to feel like they aren’t able to stand on their own because they gave into the negative peer pressure, and because of that they may be easier targets for new things, and have a lot more of a chance to be easily swayed into doing things that they are not supposed to be doing. Negative peer pressure, can lead people to carry out negative behavior, or commit criminal acts. The effects of negative peer pressure is always going to be bad, because it is not something good, hence the word negative.
While we are constantly influenced by those around us, ultimately the decision to act (or not to act) is up to us as individuals. So when it comes to decision making, the choice is up to you. Know what you are supposed to do when, consult your parents or experienced people in times of decision crisis, I am sure talking helps no matter what. Just stay safe and have a wonderful life.
Published with permission from Drishtikon Official